NMPRO #33 – Say Goodbye to your Upline

April 16th, 2009 Email This


The title says it all.  Make it happen!

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  • Aaron Fortner
    Well said!
  • So, Eric, I just found out about you and started listening to you. Today is July 20, 2010. I decided to go back and listen to you from the beginning. Just wanted you to know that you are appreciated.

    Thank you,
    Jennifer
  • Jonathan Namath
    Great video - honest and to the point. When you get it and know what you're all about - say goodbye. It's almost as of the upline might've been the training wheels on your bicycle. Now is the time to take them off and get rolling.
  • Javed Iqbal
    Thnx Eric, for building a FREE, professional and EASY to use resource for all of us.

    Such day/moment is a life changing day. I never met a successful person who did not have such day/moment in his life.

    I am not responsible for your success!
    I am not responsible for your failure!
    I can support you like plant-support-rod, BUT I can’t grow for you. YOU have to grow yourself!

    “When student is READY, teacher will appear”


    Javed Iqbal
    Educator | Empowerer | Entrepreneur
    Lahore, Pakistan.
  • Erik
    Im on my personal mission to comment on your show every day also saturday and sunday. I will do so until show # 309. From show # 310 I will "only " make a comment 5 days a week, So here we go :)
  • mrmauriocrawford
    My upline who left the business and just came back...called me out of the blue. I was so shocked. But I'm so glad that i saw this video, I'll be saying goodbye today!
  • keithbosenberg
    Great Advise. Absolutely correct. As if anyone else is responsible for our success. Thanks for your talks they really have the power to change lives. I wish you all the very best in your future.
  • richjordan
    GREAT viedo. I m Rich Jordan ,your right in everything you say.My mentior is none-other than Mr. Glenn W Turner ( the king of networking ) .I just want too say THANK YOU for your website ,I can add you on my list of mentiors.
  • DenisCoruzzi
    Great video for me to see at this time on my career. Thanks so much. Felt like you were speaking directly at me..
    Thanks so much..
  • Great video, Eric! I'm still catching up on all the previous NMPRO shows that I haven't seen.
  • CarlChase
    Very important to take responsibility for your life! Actually all areas of your life! Thank you for a very relevent video!
  • Alfie
    Great advice. Instead of blaming anything upward, we have to focus downward. We're always the one responsible for our failure/success.
  • Lisa Smithson
    Oh my gosh!!!! Did this just hit me between the eyes. Love it!!! Thank you Eric.
  • Erik
    The best of advice :)
  • Arne_Bortveit
    It takes you - only you to make your sucess.
  • makerofstuff
    My upline is not good with training. They believe in the company and are succeeding by drive alone. Now I find myself in the wonderful position to help train my upline! If I don't have the upline I want it is because I have not motivated them to be what I want need them to be.
    Margaret
  • tom sorvik
    Wow,I think I know now why I haven't grown in the network marketing business that I am in,I have been waiting for my sponsor to lead me and do the hard work for me,it just isn't going to happen!! I have to show that I can carry on without being babysat!! Thanks for the wonderfull info Eric! Your friend from now on!
  • What a great message, Eric.
    It's definitely all up to US.
    I've fallen into that trap before (trying to blame my upline) but I soon realized that it's the person in the mirror that is the only one responsible for my success or failure.
  • Great Video! I get so many of my team members asking me where their people are, expecting me to build their downline for them. I have tried stacking in the past and it never works. I am no longer stacking to create an incentive, but stacking to reward those that take action.
  • grace Cruz
    Goodbye Upline...
  • I am biased here a bit...but you da man E-war! You da man! Great stuff!
  • I like this segment and it resignates with me, as i made that decision when i joined my company. To make it happen with the system, not my sponsor!

    My sponsor was a renegade and made a lot of wrong choices and took alot of people down a path that wasn't duplicatible.

    I stood firm and chose to not hold him accountable for my failures or successes in my business and sort out to reach up and learn from those that were doing the business correctly, for mentoring, (not growing my business, that is my action!)

    So today, i follow a system that is duplicatible and i make sure that my new team members are congruent with the system and hold themselves accountable for their failures and successes!

    When this is implemented into the business it is much smoother sailing, without any preconcieved ideas of what expected!

    So the conclusion is...just go for it, make it happen!

    Mell Boz _ Australia
  • Javed Iqbal
    True apporach. Good!
  • So 100.000.000 % TRUE!!!
    If you are in networkmarketing, you are your own CEO, and you are responsible for your own actions!!
    Yes, your upline should support you in the beginning with any questions you may have,
    But at the end, you need to know, that you are in this business 'for yourself' but not 'by yourself'.
    Which means your upline,sideline etc. support you, but they don't do the business 'for you'!!
    Big difference!!!
    Great interview,
    looking forward to many, many more!
    Carmen
  • cphillips
    I would be interested to know what happened to my comments.
  • ramon cordova
    por favor nesecito informacion en español
  • What can I say... Thank you... again :)
  • Nate Stevens
    Hey Eric, this was one of the best so far. It's so true, when it comes down to it, I am the only one who can do anything with my business. I hear a lot of people complain about not being on the right leg, wishing they were on the power leg, whatever. I'm new to this, and I have to admit, in the beginning, when I was first understanding how it all works, I complained about not being on my sponsor's power-leg. Then he told me that he's had no spill-over, and that if he could do it, I can too. ( We went to high-school together, and we are both first time network marketers with our current company, he enrolled about 4 weeks before he sponsored me). So, now I know that it's all up to me, that I have awesome support up the line (daily live training with the #7 earner in the company if I want it), and it's time to get to work!
  • Eric... thanks. Appreciate all the videos. You're doing a great job interviewing people in the industry. I keep checking in here every now & then to see what's new. It's a nice little "inspirational boost" whenever you need it!
  • Shane Wolff
    I love this info but is there a way to download this and take it on my mps or burn to a cd.
  • Gerard Buurman
    Just download "DownloadHelper" and click where (map) you want to save the file
  • Tony Scarcia - Brisbane Austra
    Don't forget about the sponsors (upline) who won't let you go, won't let you develop. I have seen those who were held back, smothered and kept, and still are to this very day.

    If your sponsor or up-line is like that then get the heck out of there FAST!

    I'm not suggesting you leave your opportunity, just disassociate from your captors and take the reigns yourself, because that is what they are, captors keeping you caged in a farcical attempt to feed their ego. It's really a case of insecurity of their part. If you are in this situation then you flat out know that it's happening and you are ignoring it, period.
    If you stay in that situation you will become like them, if you haven't already.

    So get bothered, get real, fight the butterflies in your stomach and just get the heck out of there and take control of your life, your business and your future.

    There's just too much good out there to be held back from.
  • Tony Scarcia - Brisbane Austra
    Just as I am watching this installment my good friends and colleagues are in the air on their way to San Diego and I'M NOT!!!!!!

    This 'IS' the last time I will not attend.
  • Thank you Eric for your message. You hit the nail on the head. People always look for a reason why MLM or Network Marketing doesn't work for them, so they use Up-line, Sponsor or Mentor as an excuse why they failed. Yes, it's helpful to learn from those who are already there where we want to go, but you are right, we do not need anybody to become successful, we just need to apply the right mindset. The only difference is, it maybe takes a little longer!
  • Sam Henke
    Great subject we all need to take charge of are own success
    So if you have a “good” upline it’s a bonus.
    You guys looking good in the Californian sunshine.
    Wish I was there

    Sam Henke UK
  • In short:
    Smart leaders create leaders.
    Lucky leaders stumble upon them.
    Why count on luck?
  • This session encapsulates the gospel of empowering network marketing!!

    Personal accountability is keynote to success. Why, because of the duplication factor! As Jim Rohn said..."you can't carry three..." and what he meant was don't carry anybody. One of my early mentors told me that the most important asset I have, and that I must guard zealously, in my own energy. To that end, it is imperative that boundaries be clear:
    Upline gives direction and support to
    Downline who warrants it.

    So. be forewarned all ye paternalistic uplines...YOU WILL NOT SUCCEED!!! unless you get really lucky and find a downline who, as Eric has suggested, thanks you for the introduction, and sends you on your way.

    Keep it coming Eric.
  • Marychely Romero
    Thank`s Eric!!!!!
    I enyoyed this video so much.You are GREAT.
  • Terre Johnson
    Those words are incredibly empowering when fully embraced!
  • John Leonard
    Eric...

    Thanks for sharing some really great advice, insights, and experience with all these videos. I found this particular vid to be incredibly empowering when I reflected on the role that I play in my own success and it was advice that came along in the right moment ;)

    Thanks

    John

    ps: if you stumble across my upline in your travels.... could you tell him I said "Good-Bye" :)
  • Jose Padilla (Caracas-Venezuel
    "Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself.
  • Sooner or later, but ultimately we must become the captain of our own ship along with the responsibility for our own destiny. We have to make it happen - don't try - do.
  • Anf, I agree and disagree :)

    I will never say bye bye to an upline of mine: I rather make them say goodbye to me, because this way,it's them that are giving up on me and on their dreams and not me.

    I will allways believe on them until they do it as well. If they have the passion I will keep them focused. If success is not happening, I will take time to glue to them and try to understand what is going wrong.

    At the end he/she might resolve stop using my help, but it will be his/her decision :)

    Still love you :)
    Alfredo Rodrigues
  • Laurynas Liniauskas (Ireland)
    I've done it just right now.
    Anf, I understand it, and I'm agree with you too. My upline is mine resource , but I am responsible for my success.
    Regards
  • Dear Eric,

    I agree completely with your statements today about taking charge of your own success. I have talked with so many people about this business and many of them get in and wait...wait for someone else to build their business. I'll admit that in the beginning stages of our business I was waiting for others to build their team as fast we were growing ours and learned quickly that in most cases it was not going to happen.

    We have taken the next step and have decided to build our business and not wait for others. It is the best decision we have made.

    Thanks for your daily mentoring as it has already made a big difference. I look forward to future programs.

    Regards,

    Michael Dudley Boston, MA
  • Eric Worre
    Anf, you GOT it! :)
  • @ Laurynas - I want to add here that nobody who ever became a success in any business, did it alone. Being responsible for your success also means being able to guide/lead those who are part of your business. That means giving direction, not doing the work for them. Definitely if you provide adequate information to get them going, and then they don't take responsibility for their own success, then it's time to say bye bye.
  • I agree 100% with what Eric is saying. He's not suggesting you kick your upline to the curb, though it may be misinterpreted that way. He even says in the video - use your upline as a resource if required.

    What he's saying is that from a mindset/mental standpoint - the day that you/I decide that all success and all failure is your/my responsibility - that's the moment when things will change significantly.

    Let me put it another way, if you don't do the exercises or if you don't eat right and you want to lose/gain weight - then would you blame your trainer/nutritionist for not getting the results you want?

    What I have observed in MLM/direct selling/network marketing more often than not is that the system works, it's the people that do not.
  • Laurynas Liniauskas (Ireland)
    Hello everyone.
    I fought about what you said Eric in this video at the first day I've joined MLM. I fought that if I recruit a lot of people and if they wouldn't be success, I'll be responsible for them. But now I feel grate with your help, again.
    Thank you so much for what you are doing.
    Best regards
  • OLIVIA REINOSA MEXICO
    Eric,

    I agree with Alfredo Rodriguez, I think is a great idea to be responsible for our own success and no to blame our uplines, but at the very beginning, we have to be there. You know there are times that the new members feel a little bit discouraged, not really being aware of the decision they made, and they need someone to couch them, to maintain that illusion, to guide them in the ups and downs.
    I will ask all my downlines this look at this video; I will ask them to tell me if they need something, any kind of support before I let them go free to make their own decisions for success.
  • Dear Eric

    I agree in some extent, but not all the way.

    In fact I agree that all of us are responsible for controlling our own future, but let’s think of something that might be not well considered: new people getting into the business are potentially still struggling to get rid of their distorted mentality.

    What I mean by this is that most people getting into this industry feel they need something more, they are losing something and it's time to give a punch on their lives.

    At beginning they need good and constant coaching available.

    The sponsor must be prepared to kind of "marry" the new distributor for at least a couple of weeks in order to help him create this new "freedom believe" mentality.

    After that, I totally agree with you: Let's let them fly on their own :).

    Of course that the sponsor has always an option to ask help to other downlines to give support to a specific new distributor if he his having more issues than usual.

    But that's a decision that should be made by the sponsor based on his experience, and the more experienced, the best decision making process will be taken.

    Anyway, food for thought

    Love you all
    Alfredo Rodrigues
  • briankaywilson
    This is something I have needed for years, I have always felt our distirbutors not doing our biz had something to do with whether or not I had not said or done something they needed.....to succeed, not being the leader they need.

    This video took that weight off my shoulders and I will be using your quotes to all new people joining us.

    Thanks so much Eric.
  • Another Great Interview! I threw myself in this industry 3 1/2 years ago and it took me about 2 years to realize that I AM RESPONSABLE FOR MY SUCCESS! Yes, Thank you for putting your knowledge to the masses who are looking at network marketing (Social Commerce) as their Life-Style of Choice!
  • This is why I love your show. This is such an important topic to know and take ownership of.
    I’ve always believed that everyone is self made; doesn’t matter if you live in the big house on the hill or clean ditches for a living… YOU are the reason. You are what/who/where you are because of decisions YOU made. It seems only the happy people “own it”… Accountability is SO important. Only a victim mentality can participate in the blame game or try to “pass the buck”. Only after you take FULL accountability for your business/career/life can you be in control and create your destiny.
  • Trish Walsh Lake Worth, FL
    The idea to tell your prospects right off the bat that they are responsible for their success and failures is one I am going to duplicate.
  • Great Topic... Nuggets.. Get Mad, Take Charge, Take RESPONSIBILITY for your SUCCESS, ... Awesome.. Is Wes going to be one of your interviews?

    On another note I heard Kentucky head basketball coach, John Calipari being interviewed on the Mike and Mike radio show. He spoke about dream building, Goals, Mindset and Building Trust and Transfering belief. How about an interview with him sometime.
  • Debbie
    The idea that I am responsible for the success of the people I bring into the business has plagued me from day one. Watching this has caused a shift in my mindset. A huge thank you.
  • Lisbeth Bregnhardt
    Hey Eric

    This video is very good ( so are all the others ;0) ) Excellent point, I will forward it to upline, downlines and crosslines.

    Lisbeth Bregnhardt DK
  • Hey Eric, sad to hear that you are trying to get rid of me so soon! Lol. On a serious note I found this episode fascinating, as it dove tails neatly into the previous discussion about not needing permission to become a leader.

    I value your leadership extremely highly to say the least, which is why I sought you out, but I recognise that I have to be a leader in my own right, and that I dont need permission from anyone in order to succeed.

    Keep it coming my friend this stuff is awesome.

    Grahame Brown (UK)
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