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This was so cute! I have had to work a little bit to get my husband on board with me. This is my second company in network marketing. My husband was very supportive with the first company but it just didn't work for us. This new company really fits me and I am super passionate about it BUT my husband kind of lost hope in NWM so I've had to work a little on him but now he is turning back around and I'm bringing him to our first meeting. I'm SUPER excited and I KNOW without a doubt that we are going to make it in this business together!!!

Watching this interview for the second time and just thinking how lucky I am to have a spouse who not only supports me, but is doing it with me as my partner. In fact, he is better and more consistent than me and I am so grateful for him. I feel so blessed that we have the opportunity to work together and create a wonderful lifestyle.

Also, Nat and Chanida are so likeable and funny, I can see why they have become so successful!

Have to remember those words of Nat and Chanida! My husband is not against my business but I don't feel the support either. But I'm beginning to show him my results.

This is interesting for me. My spouse has always been supportive of me in any endeavor that I have been involved with. However, since being in NWM, he is supportive in the way that he is not negative, yet he will in no way help me. Even after I showed him some really big checks, more than he was making at his full time job.. he still didn't want to help me. He is more like, "Hey honey, this is your thing." So, that is the way it is. I would love for him to join me and for us to work as a team, but he has no desire to do it. If he were to help me, I believe we could have a closer relationship, but I can't make him want to do it no more than I can make anyone else want to do it. He does love the money though!!
Sheatina

Eric thanks for Chanida and Net very inspiring couple. Mirrors in the background are destruption, and sound little noissy

My boyfriend is sooo supportive it is amazing! From the beginning he supported me 100%. I feel this is the case because in the Mary Kay business not only do we earn extra cash to do fun things but it is also a self development course that we are paid to take. Every week we are exposed to different ways of thinking to help us become better women. We are given information on team building, communication, time management, money management and so much more. The proof was in the pudding… he saw the immediate change in me, and liked what he saw… who wouldn’t support that!

My husband supports me in the business ... but he tells me as long as I don't spend too much time doing it.

Needless to say, this makes it difficult, because what is too much time? My idea and his idea of TOO much time are not exactly the same. I'm excited about the business and ready to do what ever it takes and he's on the sideline just waiting for my time away from the business. He doesn't want to get involved which makes it very hard for me.

I guess, like Nat & Chanida's situation - once he can see meaningful checks.... that's probably when he will be more understanding and supportive, but it sure isn't easy until then. But I AM determined.

Thank you Eric, this Network Marketing Pro series is so helpful.
~ Dorene

I think it’s a natural tendency to want the people closest to us to strongly support our endeavors. It’s a great lesson to know that just like many prospects spouses might not see it right away either. Chanida was strong and believed enough to move forward alone…when Nat was ready his mind opened to the possibilities. Great story!

Eric

Great topic!!, I have more than 1 year in MLM and my wife do not understand this is a profession and real work, she sees as hobby or something to dream about, I am 100% convinced this is my future I will be a great professional in MLM, but it is been very hard to prospect my wife (al least she loves le products).

Will see you soon

Dear Eric, I watched the video from Beirut Lebanon. I came here to take a last stab at saving my family after my husband divorced me after 7 years of marraige and a beautiful daughter. I used to be a scientist and a university professor. The bad marriage and following divorce has posed a critical threat to my career and threw me off balance internally. I got into MLM with Agel just over a month ago, thanks to a good friend of mine. Money was always an issue between me and my husband because I never really worked for money per se, but worked to discover nature and teach about it. I was a book worm and an idealist. The divorce was a wake up call for me to start working for money, thikning to myself, this is my chance to learn how to "think" and "talk" business. To my surprise, MLM had more to offer me, APPLIED PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT. I used to live in an ivory tower surrounded by a thick layer of judgement about myself and the world. My self esteem was based on my professional and personal status and when those where gone, I lost all esteem. I always read personal development books, in the morning and at night, and once I closed the book, I went back to my ivory tower and self judgements. In other words, I did not apply what I read in my daily life. I did not turn it into action. Now MLM forces me to do that. My first Agel meeting was in Anaheim CA. You were there and asked us what thoughts and gut feelings we have about MLM. I was the one who said "it is for loosers." Do you remember? That was one of my ivory tower judgments. I actually thought I was a looser after loss of my faculty position and husband. Now I strongly believe that Agel is how I'm definately winning back myself, if not also my family.

hi there Eric, QOTD, no. I do not have the "home" support not in my MLM business nor my full time business. I don't know why or if she ever did. It's very hard emotionally and pyschologically to wake up each day and get thru it to know that no matter what i do, it doesn't seem to make a difference. My personal relationship has also been very stressfull with no to little connection, I say this as that part of our relationship seemed to stop shortly after marriage, however we did manage on two occasions to bring two beautiful children into this world and they are my life. When I was first introduced to MLM I saw a way to change my situation to create a better world for my kids and hopefully regain or re-ignite my relationship by eliminating the stresses of not having enough money, of allowing her to be the stay at home mom her mother was, by allowing me to be home to allow us to find each other again... hopeless romantic I guess. Anyway long answer, way too deep, I feel my lack of success in MLM is directly related to my inability to do this buisness in a duplicable way. I'm walking through unfamiliar territory and have watched people who have joined the same MLM company and do very well. It's very hard to tell prospects what to do if I'm not and it starts with home support, home business presentations with family and friends. As far as having "proof" that what I'm doing does matter, its going to have to be "$" that might make the difference. She won't even watch or look at any of my business materials samples marketing etc... none of it. I'm looking very very forward to the next segments in this session, looking for that info I can use or show her that might make a difference.

thanks Eric as always your words and guests are inspiring and what keeps me alive in MLM, you give me something to look forward to.

My heart warms to couples working together in a networkmarketing business - there is such synergy. My spouse does not support me, is opposed to my business, gets downright angry and prevents me from approaching quality prospects (our friends).
We have another business together more than 30 years, he feels my NM business interrupts. The main reason he's opposed is that in 8 years I haven't really had a breakthrough.
The negativity around me (as friends have also become negative) and my own lack of self confidence make this business very difficult. But I love networkmarketing, I believe that dreams come true when you have a system and work hard, and I'm no quitter. Also, I know what the alternative is - living in quiet desperation.
Thanks, Eric for bringing up this subject.

You might want to take a look at your approach. Friends shouldn't feel uncomfortable or negative if you do it right. And if you've done it wrong, it's always easy to go back and apologize. Keep your chin up.

Great story- such a fun couple.
My wife supports me in whatever I do, and I do in her stuff too.
It doesn't mean that we do the SAME things all the time, but we do support each other.

You have a great woman Bones! Tell her hi for me!

Hello
That is interesting. My girlfriend is ignoring everything what is about my business. She just do not want to hear anything about it, but I know that one day everything will change. I just don't care what others think about opportunity I've choose.
Happy end for Net and Chanida. Fantastic story.

Ask her why she is ignoring it and then shut up and listen. Really understand her reasoning. From there, you can start to build a bridge. Don't PITCH her on your biz!

She doesn't believe it can work for me, because I'm just to small "fish" in NM "fish tank". She is away for 5 weeks now, so I can work on my business and learn new skills :D And maybe when she comes back I can show to her my achievements.

No husband to worry about, but I love their success story!

Any additional info on prospecting or scripts?

Plenty more to come...

Although my husband doesn't get involved he supports me financially, it's a big part, and I am grateful for this.
Now my job is to start getting sufficient income.

If it was not for the supportive spouse that I have there is no way I could be in the position I am not in with network marketing - even if you don't have a spouse backing you it can be done but it makes it so much more pleasant to have that support !

QOTD - Does family count? what about sisters? They don't support me. They think I am crazy ;)

I think there are two reasons:
1. They are afraid
2. I haven't been clear with them on what I really do. They haven't taken the time to hear it and I have been to scared to ask them to do it too.

Bottom Line: It has been my fault! ;)

Have a great day everybody!!

RoX

Wow. Great perspective RoX

Hi Eric,

Great story form Nat & Chanida I know that in the not distant future I will be having the lifestyle that you guys have, and have my wife as my business partner.
QOTD My wife was not very supportive in the beginning, but let me have my way. Now days she is more supportive, not because of the checks as they are not meaningful yet, but because of the changes that getting involved in MLM is generating in me through the development of skills needed and personal development. This profession is changing my personality for the better its helping me become a better person.
Cheers
Jose

"When I saw the whole presentation, they talked only to me." only happens if your guest is in the room. Most of my guests did require more than one invitation. When you bring them, they cannot leave until you do and sets the stage for "When I saw the whole presentation, they talked only to me."

WOW.

Yeah, persistence is vital

(1) My wife and I haved supported each other for the 20yr. in different businesses we have tried together!! (2) Yes for the most part. I say that because we don't always see eye to eye which can make for a great team. (3) We got a little older and wiser :)

LOVE #3 :)

What a charming couple. I love it!
QOTD: I'm lucky to have a supportive spouse. She suppports everything I do, but she wants to see results. In the last company I was with, she was very supportive but when I started spending more money and not making any, that support quickly ceased (perfectly understandable). In my latest venture, because there have been some results, AND not as much money spent, her support has been great.
Great question. I think spousal support can make or break a business.

QOTD: My spouse didn't support me, so now I'm single! A little joke, but there are more ways than just the business side where one gets support or not. I am currently single and am finding a different set of challenges doing this type of business alone. I am interested in hearing some thoughts on this.

There are pros & cons for working married or working single. Neither really matter much to a person who's made up their mind.

QOTD: Yes, she does. No, it wasn't always that way. I guess she understood that this is the road I'm taking. She says that she loves me and will support me in realizing my dreams (which include her, of course). Now she's my integrity check and lets me know when I'm not keeping my word in regards to the business.

A great partner always keeps you in checked into reality.

My spouse was extremely against my participation in network marketing at the beginning. She had known many family members who had 'tried MLM' and failed (big shock) - that was her view on the industry.

She is now very supportive - why? Because I took the time to show her that this was a real profession that took time, practice, education and commitment to become good at - just like any other profession.

Although the checks helped change her mind, too ... :-)

QOTD: I am fortunate to have the greatest wife a man can have. Deb, my wife, is my full partner in our journey in network marketing. She believes so strongly in our company and what we are doing that she is working her job that she hates as I work full time building our future in this great industry, She's there to kick my butt when the activity isn't there and celebrate when we have great days, like yesterday! I'm truly blessed to have her as my partner.

Brian

A great partner also kicks your butt when you need it!

Hi Eric,
I really like these videos, but I am having a problem with the video stopping and starting. Can you advise me on what I need to do to get the videos to run from start to finish without stopping and starting? Thanks!

Cathy, if the video stops and starts it is in fact because of your internet connection speed.

An easy fix for you though: When the video starts, immediately press the 'pause' button, then wait until the blue line makes it's way across the bottom of the video all the way to the far right, then press play again. Enjoy!

I think the stop & start happens because the video is loading. It might be your internet connection speed? I'm an amateur at this stuff.

Hi Eric, unfortunately my spouse doesn't support me which makes it difficult at times and hacks away at my 'faith' and confidence at being able to 'make it.' In my case, as I'm sure in many others, the lack of support isn't necessarily malicious but comes from our history together. Previous experiences I've had with respect to other businesses may have paved the way for her uncertainty. Maybe some of the difficulty even comes from my subconscious holding me back because it either agrees with my spouse's negativity, or I subconsciously prevent myself from moving forward because I selfishly don't want her to participate in any success that will come from my efforts. Or maybe it's a worry that things will change so much on my end that it could signal the end to the relationship. I think a negative or unsupportive spouse is more a common hindrance than we imagine. I also think that I probably use it as an excuse more often than I should. But moving forward without support is tough.

If you try to really find out WHY she doesn't support you, then you can work to build a bridge through love and communication.

Thanks Eric. I think I know but finding out directly would be better. I think there's a session with Peter Pearson on Randy's Mental Edge MLM that talks about that - 'sponsoring your spouse.' Guess it deserves a re-listen. Again, thanks.

Great segment! My wife has been very supportive to me. Not actively involved but keeps an eye and ear on what goes on. It has always been this way. I think because she knows me very well and has faith in my decisions.
I have been in management in the insurance business and we met for breakfast and lunch with our associatess daily and always followed up in the evening with a phone call. This call was primarily was meant to make sure the spouse didn't crush all the positives of the day.
Best Regards!

It was tough at first, because we went out on a limb to launch our MLM career. It was stressful, and I really had to win her over to buy into the dream. But about 5 months into getting serious I was able to replace my job income. There's nothing like actually bringing home some checks and never having to work at a job again that really kicks the spousal support into high gear :-)

I met this people 2 years ego at the international meeting of the company they are with. they are amazing!!!

Don'y you mean.. UNBELIEVABLE ! ? I totally agree. Great people and very humble at the same time.

So, I was lucky in that. My ex husband gave me his contacts, so I worked with them, but he has his own business.
Now my boyfriend is working with me in the same Industry, in the same company. And I'm very happy, that we have the same point of view on it. He help me very much and I always appreciate his advices.
Nat & Chanida are very nice couple, it was a big pleasure for me to know them. They are a great example, that in this business it's possible to enjoy the time, they spend together and make money on it.
Thanks for sharing the experience of these successful people.

Your boyfriend sounds amazing!

My partner is one of the non supporting spouses in the Network Marketing Industry and they can make it very challenging for you.

As I mentioned to others, try to really find out WHY she doesn't support you. Really listen. And then with love and communication, you can start to build a bridge.

Hey Eric,

I am very very lucky in that my wife fully supports me in everything I do, even through the bad stuff. This was certainly not the case in my previous relationships.

What a fabulous couple, really looking forward to the rest of the interview!

Warm regards

Grahame Brown (UK)

Big THANK YOU Eric. There is a lot of skepticism out there, and considering the un-professional side of this industry, there is little reason to wonder why so many people are skeptical. From the unethical to the criminal, I think many of us have been victims of both. It is lovely to see the testimony of this lovely couple who are now reaping the rewards and celebrating their joint endeavour with such joy.

"Difficulty at the beginning" is true for all good things I think.

My wife doesn't get involved but just recently she did offer to give a DVD of my business to someone she knows. At least that's a start.

That's a BIG start!

well, my wife has nothing against what I'm doing. mostly she supports me on that. Of course it is ununderstandable for her when I take more time to finish my work. But on the whole, it's ok, I guess :)

Wow . . . to think that the people we love and care about the most can be our biggest hurdle. I'm sure it's happened to all at some point or another in business and in life.

Talk about tenacity: "I feel sick, can you drive me to the presentation?". "Can you sit with me in the back?" You won't find that in any training manual :)
Now that deserves a medal. (Or at least $100k per MONTH). Awesome.

QOTD: Don't have that issue to contend with. however when my spouse appears she will already know what I do . . . ha ha!

Chanida's a pretty clever lady :)

Dear Erick: Nice Interview with Natt and Chanida. In my case Always have my wife support to was more easy to handle when I begin in this awesome Business

Dear Erick: Nice Interview with Natt and Chanida. In my case Always have my wife support to was more easy to handle when I begin in this awesome Business

I am waiting the 2nd part of the Interview

Congratulations for your always taking care and proactive was to promote our Profession

Regards,

Sergio Carvallo
Chile

My pleasure Sergio

I love you guys.
Nat, did you feel any jealous about your spouse achieving that kind of success?
Was it a problem?
How did you deal with it?
Best to all of you guys.

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