I love this show.. sorry just commenting, did a marathon of all the shows I missed lat night!!!

So true

I heard you. Some of the people I know need to hear this message too. Thank you.

To be successful, mix with successful people. Then you can take your unique journey. But if you compare it will hold you back.

This is a important subject also - and since we start at different levels - we have different speed.
And some take longer to develop the skills and behaviors needed....

Thats great advice.....We all succeed at our own pace...

I understand (rational), that it's not good to compare, but emotionally the question arises in a split second: 'what do I wrong that they are so succesful and I'm not?'....

Every success has a story and alll have their own story !

Everyone's journey is unique, how to I help individuals on my team to encourage and retain them?

Thank you Eric for the information. This really is so important and sometimes I forget and start to compare, ant it really is hurting my business. So I will continue building my organisation and focusing on developing my scills. Better is Perfect you once said, better is perfect...

My defining moment came, when thru NMPRO I realized "I" wasn't being true to myself or the profession? I now see I was too busy playing the "blame game!" See it was more comfortable to say things like "my up line didn't teach me right, he/she was weak, they left me all alone..." Thru NMPRO, I quickly found that none of that was truly my problem? I WAS MY OWN PROBLEM! I now know what the saying "if it's going to be, it's up to me" really means! Thru education, self improvement, patience, and being associated with good teachers, I can go as high and far as I wish. My success or failure is not controlled by anyone else, I AM THE MASTER OF THIS VESSEL! I will ONLY get out of this business what I put in. What God has for me, is for me! Thanks NMPRO, thanks Eric!!!

Well comparing can be good sometimes but only if people are fair doing the comparison and don't compare apples with pears... A lot of people tend not to see someone elses hard and/or smart work and therefore get frustrated, but if they would be more honest with themselves they would have to admit that they didn't do exactly the same things as the ones having more succes.

#347 - I love to see people do well. It is not a good idea to compare your progress with the progress of others.

Thanks Eric. Seeing the life you live, participating in your travels is amazing. It would be a shame not to put all this to work and show the world we have a better way.

You can be inspired by other peoples success, but dont compare.
I´m unique and my my way to the top will also be unique!

As long as I see my volume increases every month, and new leaders are being recruited to out Team, I know this will take us all to the next rank, without comparing other peoples growth.

So true

As we are individuals, everyone's path to success in they are own way. Better way, never compare your success to someone else. Thank you Eric.

I gotten better with time not to worry about comparisons as well as people asking me about my success's. I am very adamant about ensuring that my new partner understands that this business has many challenges that they are likely to experience and they WILL be challenged along the way. I ensure that I know their WHY so that I can play if back to them when they run into road blocks.

Hola Eric, We need to do our business ourselves¡¡
Saludos.
Daniel y Natali, Querétaro, México.

I think it can be more than simply comparing results. Some people start to compare how the better results were achieved. Some people see that quick results were achieved because an upline superstar was near by and that superstar did all of the home meetings. This can lead to the belief that one cannot achieve great results unless an upline superstar is available to do home meetings. I've seen a number of people leave the business because of this type of comparison, too.

Great message.
Back from an amazing weekend in Barcelona and it´s all clear. It´s an circle at the top and it´s mine. My journey starts with me. No comparing :)

Thanks for the advance warning of comparing in Network Marketing!!!

This show officially made my day!

I did this in the beginning and it is a downer- it takes you out of doing what is important because you are too busy beating yourself up. Anything worth having is worth waiting for and if I have to work longer and harder to get there at least I will get there.

This is a weak spot that needs some training on!

Pretty powerful Eric. Thanks we all seem to compare sometimes. so on one side that can be a challenge to step up but to some discourageing as you say . so to understand this message and share it is what we all need to do..

Thank You Eric, Never compare your success to someone else. Everyone's path to success is as unique as we are individuals.

Excellent, I read the book LITTLE VOICE MASTERY of Blair Singer (Rich dad Advisors) and he saids that when I compare with other a loose half of my potential. You are right we need to focus in our path and take the discipline to continue doing our business every day and we will get the results .
Thanks again Eric

Very good insight.

So easy to have those thoughts enter your head and ruin your day, but I choose to be happy for those and try to learn from them. I know my time is coming and hard work will have paid off!

Eric You just make my day , on the dot thanks for this great info .

Don't just look at or tell the overnight success stories when sharing my op. And also, Don't just look at or evaluate my own story. Everyone's timing and success is different. So true Eric.

I really appreciated when a top leader in my company who had 14,000 in his group at a year and by the way he talked about the money when he presented our op. He didn't brag about what he had accomplished, he didn't even mention the size of his group (I asked him privately afterwards), or even his largest check to date. Instead, he 'dumbed' it down for the ordinary every day person. He set up expectations that both an under, or over achiever could accomplish.

The biggest mistake that I consistently made when I first got started in mlm 10 years back was that I lead -only- with the money. Here's the problem, a made up example. Let's say I have a leader that is top of the company who got there the quickest and earned more than anybody else in the company I am looking at. And let's say that I lead with the top earners financial success story.

Let's pretend that the company is only one year old and that the top earner is one out of 100,000. And let's say that they earned $500,000 their first year. Now if I -only- led with the money with the top earners story then when my new rep got to one year and was only at $5,000 a month, or $500 or $10,000 a month then that person will drop out. Why? It is a setup for failure because of the expectation that -I- set up when recruiting them.

Here's the down side when that happens. True story. This happened to a prospect when a top earner in my company shared their financial success story. When it came to the money part of the presentation, they shared numbers of how many were joining their group daily, and dollars were shared as to how much was earned. After the presentation my prospect turned to me and said "I can't do what your top leader just did and therefore I can't even consider joining your company." See the problem?

Today, I now promote all aspects of my business. I don't 'just' lead with top money earners stories. I offer balance. There are many reasons why people are a part of my company. So why setup unrealistic expectations when it can only do harm to my group in a year?

To your realistic and personal success story! dave sommers

Hey Eric! Give us an update on your 1-a-day-for-365 days prospecting campaign. We'd like to also see more of your daily experiences interesting observations, even the little "wow" or "not-so-wow" things of your personal experiences while going through the whole prospecting process for a single prospect.... maybe even reveal some vulnerability - the type of personal "vulnerability" that is required to connect with prospects, and also another type of vulnerability- the one that shows you/we are human , but we do get up to learn after making some of those "mistakes." Thanks!

All true. I've done this and it will cripple your progress. Measuring your success by what others have done, will only serve to discourage you. Learn from others, and walk your own path. Your reward will be greater.

I totally agree. It was a big mistake of mine early on.

As Eric states..."Your Journey is unique and unto you"...Sure others will have influence on you along the way but your success is ultimately up to you.

Competition is great, but compete against yourself... Push yourself to do better, but don't compare yourself to others. Look at study what others that have had great success have done and do and model that to achieve better results for your business.

Enjoy the journey... We have a better way!

This lesson is one of your most powerful so far!

#347 Each person’s NM journey is unique; Don’t let yourself feel bad if YOUR journey is not as fast as someone else’s rocket ride. Don’t compare.

Three boys were heading home from school one day when one started the time - honored game of paternal one - upmanship. He said, "My dad's way faster than any of yours, he can throw a 90-mph fast ball from the pitcher's mound and run and catch it just after it crosses the plate!"

One of the other boys said, "Oh yeah? Well, my dad can shoot an arrow from his bow and run to the target and hold it up to make sure the arrow hits the bulls eye!"

The last boy said, "Your dads don't even come close to being faster than mine. My dad works for the government, and even though he works every day until 4:00 he gets home at 3:30!"

Don't compare, find out what they are doing and do it :)

Good words for today fo sure.

It took me about 1 and a half years to "get it right" before I started enjoying success, and that's OK!

Dance to your own music baby.

If someone is still comparing his/her success to other, it only means that their ego is still in control of them. That will only lead to disappointment and frustration or being arrogant.

Instead of doing that, we should always be competing from our yesterday. We should always be getting better. As they say, if we stop growing, we start dying.

That was an important lesson. I know not to compare but haven´t thought about the importance of telling booth "fast" and "slow" stories. Now when you tell it´s so obvious that we need to do that!!

A very good point. I think it's important to remember that the real competition is only with yourself. "How have I improved?". "How much better can I be next month or year?".

Comparing ourselves in any way is a part of human nature. It happens subconsciously as we go through life sizeing each other up. But we must remember that what seems like instant success or luck is often only the result of more determination & hard work. So when you feel you are comparing where you are to where they are, ask some questions first to understand what they went through first to get there. I think you'll find that they were once exactly where you are now.

Nancy: Good, clear and concise. clap clap clap

great point Eric... everyone comes along at their own speed.. just don't ever quit!!

347:
very good reminder

If you want to become a successful person, socialized with successful people, surround yourself with successful people, learn what they do and what they do not do. That's the only way to become successful like them.

We all have our own challenges to overcome on our journey to the top. Some of us, unfurtunately, will never overcome them. We need to always keep our focus on the task at hand. Keep doing those little things each and every day like it says in The Slight Edge. We'll get there if we persist.

The Danger Of Comparing NM Pro 347
One of the worst things to do is to compare yourself with others.We all have our own journey that we are on.
When you look at leaders in your company,look at both the ones that took a long time to build their business& those that went fast as well.

Yes this is an issue which has gone through my head many times. Thanks to Eric for the reminder that we each have our own path to follow.

Have you ever compared yourself to someone and ended up equal?

A very refreshing message. Thank you Eric. Stop worrying about others and focus on yourself and your journey.

I definitely needed to hear this because as much as I don't want to compare myself to others I find myself doing it....so I will continue to work on not comparing myself to others because it can be very discouraging at times. I will embrace my own journey and I know that my team and I will make it to the top!

Never compare yourself to anyone else. We are unique individuals and success is not measured by comparing others. You must make your own mark to success and know how far you want to go.

Great advice - be consistent and persistent.....

So true...we always hear about the fast-track stories...and the majority of us are not on that path, so our stories need to be told so we don't get discouraged.

Eric, So true I used to do that and all it did was frustrate me. Now I've learned that my journey is just that my journey.

Totally right on Eric. I tell mostly prospects this because they inevitably ask me " how well are you doing in this business thing?", and I have to tell them, "look, if I told you I was making $100,000.00 a year you'd tell me you could never do that. If I told you I was doing $50.00 a month you'd tell me it wasn't working. So don't compare yourself to me. You may blow my doors off with this business. Just get started and I promise I'll help you all I can to succeed."
Thanks again Eric.

Yes. This is a great way of getting this point over.

Very good.

You are absolutely right on! Most companies only speak about the successes. Although we are happy for the success of others, it can be very discouraging when one is moving slowly. That is when we need our emotional management techniques to be at their very best.

Hola Eric, very beautiful place I have been there¡¡¡ Great Advice We are the owners of our business, With your help we can do it.

Saludos.
Daniel y Natali, Querétaro, México.

I used to be super bad at comparing my journey with others who were having more success than me and I have to say that daily personal development was a saving grace. I have learned to just enjoy my journey and now the pieces are finally coming together and the seeds that were sown are now starting to create a harvest.

What great information! As Wayne just said, that is EXACTLY what I have done/do and is, indeed, demoralizing. Thank you so much.

Wow! How did you know that's what I have been doing. You are right - it is demoralizing when I do this - see others in my organization rocketing to the top - jumping from silver to bronze to gold to platinum in a very short time. Thank you for pointing out it is o.k. for me to do it my way as Frank Sinatra says.

Thanks Eric! I've been doing a lot of reflecting lately on people that I admire and why I admire them and the biggest common denominator is that they are comfortable in their own skin and are authentic, they don't live small. Instead of trying to be like someone else, I'm working on being comfortable in my own skin and being my own authentic self. Those are the kind of people I love to hang out with and I think that kind of energy is magnetic.

If we focus on unlocking our code and stay the course, then others' challenges and successes are simply just reference points as we progress on this journey of bettering ourselves each and everyday. Being fully cognizant of our path and our benchmarks protects us from the dangers of comparing.

Thanks! Makes me feel a little better:) MLM helped me realize I had a lot of personal development to do and sometimes it can be frustrating seeing others pass me by. It is great hearing you had the same situation when you started and look at you now!

One of most deadly thing you can do to hurt your career in NM is to compare your success to someone else success.
Thanks, I will avoid that.

I couldn't agree more with Olle Jonasson? We are all unique and need to take advantage of the gifts we posses.

Ja, det är så rätt och den enda resa i livet är det inre resa.
Olle J. Sverige

Yup, that is right.

This is so true and it's almost a natural human reaction and it came become discouraging. I appreciate that both stories need to be told because the underdog story is rarely told, it's the "quick wins" that are ALWAYS told. Very balanced...

You're right, instead of trying to outperform other people we should always try to do better everyday to outperform ourselves.

Rgds. from Paraguay.

Carlos

Carlos. Estas en Paraguay, que bueno, yo estoy en California.
Mandame tu e-mail, eabus@aol.com. Ernesto

Each journey is unique and something I always remind myself of when I get down.

#347 - The Danger of Comparing - I like your message about how I need to unlock my own lock to travel my own path. It is so true and I have seen it in my own business that comparing yourself to others is the iost discouraging thing. It can poison you business if you let people do this.

It's true that comparing yourself with others can make a slow starter become disillusioned. In my opinion there is only one comparison you should ever make, and that is between the person you are now and the very best person you could be.

Put blinders on and press on with consistency. Don't worry about what others are doing, just worry about yourself and before you know it, you'll be right there with 'em enjoying the fruits of your labor.

I love the idea of sharing both stories! In NM there seems to be a lot of emphasis on the speed of success, kind of like a weight loss plan. We all know the best way to lose weight and KEEP IT OFF is with slow loss. I think sharing stories of perseverance and slow growth will help with retention of recruits and the long term stability of your own organization.

I have my own journey to walk.
Thanks.

When we speak to folks in our organization, I recall our 4 boys growing up (how blessed we are) and how each of them began to walk at a different rate. Even when they said their first words or completed their first sentences. It is all a process for all of us we grow and learn at different rates. When we go out hiking, some of the hikers are at a faster rate of speed than some others, yet we all arrive (through persistence) at the same picturesque sights or camp. Yet for each of our son's we have never stopped encouraging and never thought of comparing one son against the other. What do you think?

i will try not too... :)

I think a lot of people do this is starting out, haven't really thought of it that way. great video!

Thank you very much for the comment, makes all the sense in the world, and most likely, we all do that in some points of our life

Point well taken. I am embracing my path. Thanks for the advice and for sharing your trip with us.

Isn't that the truth.....

This is an encouraging message, thank you!

If you like to compete with someone, Compete with your self - Jim Rohn

Unlock the key to your own journey, and stop worrying about others. I love how you said that we each have our own path. Let's embrace that and enjoy the journey.

thanks for the reminder Eric.

That's right, Eric. Refraining from comparing yourself to others is key. My mentor always reminds me to avoid comparing myself to others. She reminds me that this is my journey and I should look back at every milestone I have achieved and continue believing in myself and look forward to achieving more.

I agree. Some lucky individuals make it to the top extremely fast, but most of us take a long time, and it's totally ok. When we compare ourselves to others, instead of simply enjoying our own journey, we are going to get discouraged, so we must not compare ourselves to anyone. Thanks, Eric!

"When we compare ourselves to others, ....., we are going to get discouraged"
That's a giant of a limiting belief. If I compare myself to other I am getting encouraged!!
But since you do not know beforehand if you are going to be encouraged or discouraged and because it is your own journey, there is no point in it. Plus, it's a risky venture: If the go faster then you you may get discouraged and if you go faster then them you might get a big ego. Both are killers in NWM

Don't compare ourselves with others, it is destructive. We will succeed if we are patient and praise ourselves as we climb upward on our own paths and journeys. Celebrate our own small successes! Don't quit, keep plugging along. Thanks... great message!

Great words to live by, we should each embrace our own journey.It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others.

The phrase..."easier said than done" comes to mind here. Same goes for MLM companies too. I believe you should put the blinders on with your company and run. Good info and good day!

VERY good point Eric!

Fantastic! As always Eric! And we as individuals really need to hear it, tell our teams it and ourselves!
Thanks for sharing that once again!
To our success and making network marketing a profession of choice!
Best,
Lavinia

Thoughtful, thanks for todays show.

It's a difficult thing not to compare, but it does more damage than good.

Great information to ponder. Each of us has our own path and that is sometimes hard to not look at others instead of our own progress. The path for each of us is unique, and not all will follow that path at the same speed. Thanks for that message!

Great lesson Eric. Our story IS our journey and that's why they are all unique. I think the more the struggle, the more of us "regular people" can relate. It says, "if I can do it, you can too."

Using other peoples success stories while you build your own is a good way to go. Often the stories of false starts and slow growth can be more inspiring than the tales of a meteoric rise to the top.

It's hard not to when you always hear the success stories; I mean, we recruit with them too, so it's hard not to.

I prefer to compare myself to guys in the locker room- there I do pretty well.

I agree

Thanks for the reminder & encouragement.
The sights are amazing!

Amen to that!
We're all unique and have our own unique path to travel. Great insight as usual. Loving the locations on these shows.

This is useful. Perhaps the well intended upline coaching conversations ... you should be tearing this up! You should be doing much better, need to be offered in a different way. If you want to brain freeze yourself or anyone else ask, "WHY" haven't ....... The other demon in this set is all your past successes can get in the way here. Being the best bicycle rider in the world is wonderful but the skill sets to be the best downhill ski racer are different. The habits used to create the skill sets are transferable however.

What would you do if you KNEW you couldn't fail? Success is guaranteed. Failure is always an option.

A valuable lesson - thank you -- thank you -- thank you

So true my sister is my mentor. She had been involved in network marketing for more than 20 years and found great success. I told her that I wanted to find the same success that she had. Her words to me were the same as you have provided today. She told me to stay in my lane and let the results unfold over time. Thanks again for your great wisdom.

Amen.

Olympic track star and 9 time gold medalist Carl Lewis was asked if he paid any attention to were other runners were on the track. His response was, "I can only run my race, I stay in my lane."

Each person is on a path, abilities are individual and the developement of others is the same. Emotions and dreams get you started and comparing to others is a distractor. Thank you Eric for taking us on your trip.

Thank you! Thank you! Thannk You!!

Each has an individual goal, stay focused on it while helping others.

You have to take your own path. In your own speed.
As you Eric said, Roma isn´t built in a day.

Another one of the emotions of Networking. Discipline yourself to stay focused on your goals.
As has been said before "There is a promise land and we can get there together"

Everyone has its path, great message eric! lot's of people when first see a mlm company, what they do is to compare themselfs with the person in front of them instead of thinking for their own and think " i can do this, i can do better". i remember a show where you say that to be truthfull and that is the best way to really put people thinking for themselfs

great message

What a great and timely message for me! Comparisons in anything are destructive because we are so individually wired. Thanks for the perspective and of course the great sights.

We all move at different paces with different learning curves and sometimes the light bulb doesn't light up until later on, so yes do not compare!!! Beautiful message.

The best person to compare ourselves with is ourselves. We can use other people's stories to get inspired of what's possible but not to compare ourselves with them. [even though many sponsors do that to their downlines]

Theodore from Greece

A problem with comparing is that everyone's situation is different. So are their contacts and their abilities. I spent two years talking to another distributor to talk her into trying leadership. She had lots of relatives and contacts. She was a very nice person also. She immediately went WAY UP HIGH in the company. Now people ask me if I am under her. Another thing she did. I had bought a PT cruiser. She called me up on the phone and said she wished she could buy one. She went looking for a van since she had 5 kids. There was a limousine for sale cheaper than the van. She bought the limo and had it lettered for the company. Immediately everyone else thought she was rich. You wouldn't believe how much that advertising helped her.

Thanks for the reminder. We all have our path to go and it is different for everyone. Reading, learning, communicating, working - we develope our journey to success.
Thanks Eric.

Comparison is of no consequence – other than to learn...from success and from failure. Both stories are, assuredly, of equal consequence. If it’s not worth measuring don’t measure it.
Competition, on the other hand, can be healthy and is, indeed and in deed, essential if one adopts an objectivism approach to what is going on regarding the world economy and the broken or broke systems operating around us. And, in this philosophy, we must remain aware of what is going on around us, taking note, noticing – avoiding failure as a consequence of ignorance or by ignoring what must not be ignored.

So, once again, Mr Eric Worre provides a lesson in life as well as for our business. What we, individually and as a team, think is the crux of all we become, do and have. That we can help others to think, for themselves, uniquely, on their journey, will also be of consequence. For it is freedom and choice which we offer. And do many seek opportunity offering freedom and choice? Some will, some won’t. The only choice we, all of us, must make is to be productive, to work hard – before we can enjoy the fruits of our labour, our efforts, our thinking.

My journey, with goals, a time frame and a plan, stands alone. It is my journey and I am and will always be aiming to develop the mindset to succeed, to become better...and it is about who I am, what I do and then what my team becomes and does. And I’ve hardly started yet.

Malaga has some fine places to see and reasons to visit. I appreciated the close look at the ornate stonework on the facade of Malaga Cathedral. If you like boats, big white gleaming boats, check out Puerto Banus whilst you are there, in that region – the play port of the rich and famous – but I make no comparison with other places of this ilk.

Thanks again Eric

I am no opponent of critisism but I do question what some people do with it. Instead of using critisism as a tool to put people down (or to expire as explained in "Aspire" a few shows ago), I use it as a tool for myself to teach myself to become as good as, or even better, to become better than the people I look critical at (so I can use my knowlege to inspire my team) and to avoid the pitfalls they have encountered.

Each journey to success is different. Enjoy your own path.

That's true Tom

This attitude is the attitude of true champions. They only compete with themselves.
Fired Up and Focused!
Alex Tita
here as promised

Everybody wants to skyrocket strait to the top. Seldom so in reality so it is a good advice not to imply to new people that they could.

The lesson is; Don't beat yourself up, stay focused and keep on track. Best regards from your biggest fan.

From Kevin Hall's book "Aspire", Never make anyone feel small including yourself. Right on!

Don't compare, your journey is your journey, it's unique. Got it. Thanks Eric.

Great advise Eric. It is so easy to get discouraged by other success coming faster than you perceive yours is. Out of all those who rocketed past you in your first years, how many are still active in the business and have reached your level of success 20+ years later?

A big eyeopener. I now realize that this is one of the reasons people in my team last longer and therefor have a greater chance of succes (as they don't quit right before the have their breakthrough). Our team prepares new people for this mistake (one of the biggest you can make) so they don't create a new, and delibitating, limiting belief.

Mindset, mindset, mindset, once you realize the importance of that you are well on your way to become a superstar. But keep your ego in check please as if you don't you might turn out to become a supernova and eventually a black hole.